4 Tips for Overcoming Relationship Trust Issues

If you are reading this, it is likely that someone you trusted, whether that may be a parent, partner, friend, family member, or coworker, let you down in some way, shape, or form.

Betrayal. Manipulation. Gaslighting. Abandonment. Trauma. Infidelity. Rejection. Mistreatment.

Whatever the exact reason may be that let you down, you know for certain that it left you with some trust issues. Trust is a huge part of any relationship. Without it, it is extremely difficult to have a happy, healthy, and successful relationship, especially romantically.

Here are 4 tips for overcoming relationship trust issues.

1. Communicate with One Another

Communication is key and always will be key. Having open communication is one of the first steps you can take towards overcoming trust issues. By putting all of your thoughts and feelings out in the open, you are better able to work together in order to see both sides and understand how the other person may be feeling. You can benefit by using I statements, being empathic, and responding in a way that is gentle and warmhearted.  Remember you are a team not opponents!

2. Try to Avoid Snooping

Have you ever felt the need to check in with someone? Maybe your partner had a friend's night, and you felt the urge to check in with them to see what they may be doing, when they would be home, or who they were with. Maybe you even went as far as going through their phone, reading their text messages, emails, or even checking their location to find out where they are in their phone settings.

Keeping tabs on someone can actually worsen the trust and make this worse in the long-run. Confront them directly first about how you are feeling instead of going towards the phone. 

3. Work on Your Self-Esteem

It can be so hard to trust, especially if you have been betrayed before. You can start to feel down about yourself and may even start to question if you are even good enough to be with this person. These insecurities likely will get in the way of your relationship. The best thing you can do is work on yourself. You may want to reflect on these questions: What do you like about yourself? How have your strengths helped you get where you are now? How can they help you in the future?

4. Seek Counseling or Therapy Together

Couple coaching can help bring you back to each other. Couples at all stages in their relationships can benefit from learning and practicing skills to promote better communication, deeper intimacy, and connection. 

Working to improve the relationship with your partner is one of the most worthwhile investments you will ever make. Intimacy, connection, and communication are attainable when you decide to commit to coaching. 

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